The Life She Almost Missed: A Story of How Structure Created Freedom When She Finally Chose Herself
- Suzette Berry
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By every measure that mattered to the world, she was winning at life, except she was too busy to enjoy it.
Her calendar was color-coded.
Meetings in blue.Client calls in green.Deadlines in red.Travel in purple.
There were no empty spaces. She noticed this one morning while brushing her teeth. Her phone buzzed with another reminder and she glanced at her calendar, toothpaste foaming at the corner of her mouth. She squinted at the neat, rectangular blocks stacked one on top of the other like bricks in a wall.
She couldn’t remember the last time she’d seen a white square.
The thought lingered as she rinsed her mouth, pulled her hair into a low knot, and stepped into the quiet efficiency of her morning routine. Coffee brewed while she skimmed her schedule. Emails skimmed while she grabbed a piece of toast. Blouse buttoned while she mentally rehearsed talking points for the nine-o’clock meeting.
By the time she slid into her car, she already felt behind.
Her boyfriend had mentioned it again the night before.
“You don’t ever stop,” he’d said gently, not accusing, but tired. “You don’t make time for yourself…Or for us.”
She’d bristled at that, though she hadn’t meant to.
“I’m trying,” she’d said, which was true. “It’s just… this is the season I’m in.”
He’d nodded, understanding, because he did. He held her hand, but there was a distance in his eyes that made something in her chest tighten. She told herself she’d make it up to him later. After the project launched. After the quarter closed. After things slowed down.
Things never slowed down.
She met the old woman later that week. She hadn’t planned the break, but her noon meeting rescheduled at the last minute, leaving a rare gap in her day. All of sudden there was a blank, a hollow space she didn’t know what to do with. On impulse, she decided to walk to lunch. She had the time now and wandered into a small café she’d passed dozens of times without entering.
The bell over the door chimed softly.
The place smelled like cinnamon and something herbal she couldn’t quite place. There were only three tables, all mismatched, and a shelf of well-worn books lining one wall. At the far corner table sat an elderly woman with silver hair braided down her back, a mug cradled in her hands.
The woman looked up as she entered, eyes sharp and kind all at once.
“Sit,” she said, nodding toward the empty chair across from her.
It wasn’t a question.
She hesitated, glancing toward the counter. The barista was nowhere in sight. Her phone vibrated in her hand, as if reminding her that this was not on the schedule.
“I only have a minute,” she said, though she didn’t know why. She had a whole hour.
The woman smiled. “Minutes stretch when you let them.”
Against her better judgment, or perhaps because of it, she sat.
Up close, the woman’s face was a map of fine lines and sun-warmed skin. She wore a simple cardigan and a long skirt, her hands ringed with silver and colorful, polished stones that looked old, worn smooth by time.
“You’re very busy,” the woman said, as if commenting on the weather.
She laughed, a little too sharply. “Is it that obvious?”
“It hums,” the woman replied. “Like a wire pulled too tight.”
She opened her mouth to reply, to explain, justify, minimize, but the words tangled in her throat.
The woman studied her over the rim of her mug. “You’ve mistaken busyness for wholeness.”
Something in her chest shifted, tightened.
“I’m successful,” she said, defensive now. “I’ve worked hard for what I have.”
The woman nodded. “Yes. And you’re exhausted.”
She felt seen in a way that made her uncomfortable.
“I don’t have a choice,” she said. “This is just how things are. It’s only temporary.”
The woman tilted her head. “That’s what men say when they forget they’re alive.”
The words startled a laugh out of her. “I don’t see how that’s helpful.”
The woman chuckled. “It’s not meant to be. It’s meant to be true.”
They sat in silence for a moment, the hum of the café wrapping around them like a held breath.
“You live by doing,” the woman said gently. “By building and pushing and producing. There is power in that. But it is not the only power.”
She frowned. “What’s the alternative? Doing nothing?”
The woman’s eyes gleamed. “Receiving.”
She scoffed before she could stop herself. “That doesn’t pay the bills.”
“Maybe,” the woman said, not agreeing or disagreeing. “But it keeps you alive long enough to enjoy them.”
They talked longer than she’d intended.
The woman spoke of balance without using the word itself. Of effort and ease. Of structure that supports rather than constricts. Of how society rewards those who burn themselves bright, until they burn out entirely.
“You’re living in a man’s rhythm,” the woman said at one point, stirring her tea. “Linear. Relentless. Forward-driving.”
“What’s wrong with that?” she asked, though her voice had softened.
“Nothing,” the woman replied. “Unless you forget the other rhythm.”
“Which is?”
The woman tapped the table once, twice. “The one that cycles. That nourishes. That rests so it can rise again.”
She thought of her boyfriend then. Of the way he lingered over breakfast on Sundays. Of how he’d once asked her what she loved to do when she wasn’t working, and how she couldn’t remember the answer.
“I don’t have time for that,” she said quietly.
The woman smiled, patient. “You don’t have time because you haven’t given yourself permission.”
Her phone buzzed again. She ignored it.
“What would you have me do?” she asked.
The woman leaned back. “Change the order.”
“The order?”
“Yes. You schedule everything else first; your obligations, your meetings, your output. Then you wonder why there’s nothing left.”
She stared at her hands. “If I don’t show up, everything falls apart.”
“Does it?” the woman asked mildly.
She thought of the meetings she attended where nothing actually happened. The late nights that produced diminishing returns. The emails sent simply to prove she was present.
“I don’t know,” she admitted.
The woman reached into her bag and pulled out a small notebook, its pages yellowed and soft.
She slid it across the table.
“Try this,” she said. “One week.”
“I don’t—”
“One week,” the woman insisted. “Schedule what feeds you first. Sleep. Movement. Pleasure.
Time that fills your own cup.”
She almost laughed again. Almost.
“And then?” she asked.
“Then let your work fit around the life you want,” the woman said simply. “See what happens.”
She looked up, but the woman was already standing.
“Wait,” she said, rising too. “I don’t even know your name.”
The woman smiled. “You don’t need it.”
She walked toward the door, pausing only long enough to add, “Structure doesn’t steal freedom. It
creates it, when you build it with care.”
Then the old woman was gone.
She didn’t change everything at once.
At first, she only added one thing: a daily walk, blocked off on her calendar in a soft lavender
she’d never used before.
Then she added dinner . A real dinner, not something eaten over a laptop.
Then a standing date night, protected like a board meeting. Her calendar began to breathe.
White spaces appeared, tentative at first, then deliberate. She noticed something strange: the world didn’t collapse. Clients adapted. Meetings shortened. Work sharpened instead of sprawling.
Her boyfriend noticed too.
“You’re lighter,” he said one evening as they cooked together, music playing low in the background.
She smiled. “I feel like I remembered something.”
“What?”
“How to live.”
She still worked hard. Still built things. Still chased goals that mattered. But she did it differently now.
She moved with a rhythm that honored both her strength and her softness. Her ambition and her need for rest. Her drive and her desire.
Structure hadn’t trapped her. It had set her free.
Sometimes, when she passed the little café, she swore she could smell cinnamon in the air, and feel a smile she couldn’t quite see, watching her choose herself again.
Suzette R. Berry
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